We always have a choice. And that's not a tribute to some wise movie character saying: "You always have a choice to do the right thing."
Every day, we can choose how we feel and what we do. We can affect our mood and actions for better or for worse. The problem is when we don't see a way out of our current style of thinking or doing that's affecting us in a negative way. Not only we don't see a way to think or act differently, but we also refuse to see it. I don't know about you, but it happens all too often to me.
For example, there comes a period when we feel down for whatever reason. A bad day in school, a bad night's sleep - whatever. And then everything feels negative and we affect everyone and everything around us. But refuse to take a step back, look at the situation and change accordingly.
There's this phenomenon in social psychology I got from a TED talk that feeling positive is much harder than feeling negative. Negative emotions also last longer than positive ones.
What makes us take a step back? What makes us see what we're doing and why? An honest conversation, an opinion, an event, etc. When this happens, we maybe see a room for change and the possibility of choice. And just making a choice makes everything so much easier. Choosing not to spend money on 5$ Starbucks lattes, choosing to feel happy, choosing to go for a run. It's hard, but it's possible.
I'm usually so persuaded into the reason for my actions or mood that I see no alternative. I can imagine I'm not the only one. But choosing to change, makes it easier for us and those around us.
Wrong or right, there came a change in our thinking and actions. At least we tried to change what we do and feel. We accept it and live with it. There's always another choice we can make.